First off, it has been a while since I last posted an entry here, but im sure no one came here to read the obvious. I havent had as much interest in online activities since visiting Virginia, and as such, this site has gathered a little dust around the edges.

Well anyway, I didnt start writing this to talk about dust, I came here to reflect on things - particularly humans in general.

It is nature for animals, including humans, to conflict with one another. We see it all the time with animals, and despite everyone's attempts to hide it, this happens with each other aswell.

Is someone strangling another human a sign of this? Obviously, but this is not where it starts. The only difference in this case between humans and animals is that humans, in most cases, wont lash out their anger on the person they have a problem with. This is how most of us have been brought up to do, and because sitting in a brick room with a less than pleasant room-mate for a great deal of days just to have random strangers define what happens to you in front of a severely over-paid wig-bearing hammer-weilding judge isnt exactly anyone's cup of tea. Yet, this control does not control people - we still can do battle with someone in a different way.

Thinking about it, no one can be responsible for their feelings - if you dont agree with that, then last time you were angry, could you just switch that off? When someone did something bad to you which you did not deserve, did you forgive them and (continue to) trust them right away? Did you worry in anyway that things would spark up again, or the situation would repeat? If yes, then you are a better man/woman than most of the planet, but if no, then dont think there is something wrong with you, as the same applies to pretty much the entire human race.

I have decided to take an observers seat in life, in which I look at why people react how they do, and not base an opinion on them for it - there is always a reason behind why Joe Schmoe is so angry that he hit his friend. People's first reaction would be to blame him for his actions, but think about this - if he hadnt of felt anger, would he have lashed out like that?

Both sides of the gender are in a constant battle with their 'team mates' - girls speak about 'girl power', but in reality, go to a party, and girls are in a big effort to be better looking than their friends, or others in the room. This can get pretty nasty in alot of circumstances - maybe not including violence - this can be limited only to one of the girls there, going home thinking that she isnt worth anything, or that her attempts at being attractive were all for nothing.

You can tell a girl time and time that looks arent everything, and if you havent been punched by her, who took it as 'youre ugly, but other than that you do have qualities', then most the time they will not bare this in mind, even from the most genuine of guys. The moment her 'enemy' comes in 'looking good', then shes off believing that she needs to look better to get anywhere.

I am not blaming girls for anything, and I am aware that there are girls who couldnt care less about how they look, and as a result, they are now happily in a relationship with one of the most caring, genuine guys you could meet. Other than that, as maturity kicks in, sense starts to show, and it is no longer a despirate battle for the most exciting guy from the party, but a time to focus on getting youre life sorted.

Guys are just as bad, or in alot of cases even worse, but in a different way. Rather than trying to look better than the idiot next to him, it is instead a battle to get the best looking girl as a status symbol, to prove to his mates that he is more sought after by the best looking girls which somehow translates to 'the best girls'. Alot of guys in this position, however, dont believe what they are doing - that they arent going to be serious with the one they happen to meet at the party.


...Rather than rattling on for hours about something which doesnt take a genius, or even me to work out, time to get somewhere with this. Humans are animals, and we are not unlike them at all. The difference is, we sit and suffer through bad feelings, or rant them off to others in at least an attempt to get them on side with you, rather than get things sorted with that person who's doing something out of order. In a natures way of things, emotions were meant to cause us to act on something to stop the situation.

Basically, think about the other person and why they are doing what they are, as in most cases, its because of a feeling that they didnt have a choice about feeling.